Signs to know your husband is cheating on you
When news of Sandra Bullock's husband's infidelity surfaced, just days after she gave him a shout-out during her Oscar acceptance speech for The Blind Side , she seemed…well, blindsided. The truth is, few straying men come home covered in lipstick stains and reeking of another woman's perfume. While the signs are rarely that obvious, if you're willing to look, they're almost always there, according to Danine Manette, private investigator and author of Ultimate Betrayal. So how do you know whether all the Hollywood cheating scandals are making you paranoid or if your partner's actually in the arms of another woman? Check out some changes in behavior that could mean he's looking for love elsewhere. If your husband starts transforming into a different man, it may be more than a mid-life crisis, warns Manette.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: 6 Signs Your Spouse Is Having An Affair
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Signs of a Cheating Husband
Think your mate might be having an affair? Find out if he is displaying any of the warning signals described by Raymond B. Green, a private investigator and former police officer, and Marcella Bakur, a psychology professor at Marymount Manhattan College. Here are the 32 emotional signs that your partner may be having an affair:.
This is due to the guilt feelings experienced by the cheater in the early stages of the affair. The attention will diminish as the affair continues. These are "guilt gifts" purchased because your partner feels guilty about betraying you and showering you with presents makes him or her feel better.
Behavior that leaves you with the gut feeling that something isn't right. If this happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means you want to blind yourself to the truth. You know your mate's habits, routines and attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious when these things change.
Doing this provides a reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions he is feeling about betraying you. Constantly talks about your relationship ending when you fight or argue.
In general, your partner seems very negative about your relationship and says things like, "What would you do if our relationship ended? If your partner repeats these kinds of statements often, be suspicious. He or she seems very upbeat and excited when leaving you, but acts somber and depressed when around you. If your mate is in a long-term affair, he or she will try to keep both relationships running smoothly.
Any problems the cheater has in one relationship can spill over into the other relationship, as well. This is inevitable. You live together but don't interact. He has become cold and inconsiderate of your feelings. For instance, she always listened to pop music but suddenly starts listening to country music. Your partner might be listening to and growing fond of this new type of music because her lover listens to it. This doesn't necessarily mean he will go out and have an affair, but an insecure individual often looks to others for guidance.
If an insecure person's needs aren't being met, he might find the desired feelings of security and positive feedback in an affair with someone else. He or she is trying to make you think that type of individual would never be of interest, although there actually exists a secret attraction.
Criticizes things about you that he or she once found appealing. Becomes offended at the comments, however harmless, that you make. Stops paying attention to you, your children and home-life in general. Begins closing doors when you are around, when before he or she would leave them open.
For instance, the bathroom-door rule: Couples in long-term relationships often leave their bathroom doors open while attending to necessities even if their partners are nearby.
As affairs develop, the cheating mates will close bathroom doors, distancing themselves physically and psychologically from their partners. Acts guilty when you do something nice for him or her. You are supposed to be the person who is making life miserable and the relationship untenable. By doing something nice, you force the cheater to think about what he or she is doing. Turns the table and accuses you of cheating, but has no evidence. Would rather spend time with friends than be with you.
More interested in reading a book or watching television than talking with you or making love to you. Frequently talks about the problems a friend, neighbor, co-worker, course instructor or classmate of the opposite sex is having.
Your mate also starts to tell types of jokes or express opinions that are unusual for him or her. They seem to sense something is wrong and don't seem to be as emotionally healthy or secure as they once were. But when you ask about it, he doesn't want to discuss it and becomes very protective of his privacy.
Talks in her sleep and mentions a particular name on more than one occasion. This uncertainty may be caused by not being sure which bedroom and which lover's bed he or she is in. Behavior that triggers friends to ask you what's wrong. Close friends and family members often will notice tension or discord between the two of you before you are fully aware of it.
Becomes offended easily when you make normal and natural inquiries and may demand to know why you are checking up on him or her. They may include unexplainable exhaustion, restlessness, frequent nightmares and sleep-talking. This story was first published in A version originally appeared on iVillage.
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11 Signs That He Might Be Having an Affair
According to research conducted by Boston University sociology professor Deborah Carr, up to 25 percent of married men admitted to sleeping with someone other than their spouse during their marriage. However, it's not just waning attraction that prompts men to be unfaithful—there are countless other reasons men stray. It's important to also recognize that there are some people who cheat because they can. And while infidelity can be a crushing blow in a marriage, there are often indications that can tip you off to your spouse's extramarital affairs. Before you're blindsided by infidelity, brush up on these 30 subtle signs your husband is cheating.
Suspicions of a cheating husband can leave you with a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. You feel that something is just not right, but you really can't put your finger on anything specific. While it's a common saying that "if you suspect he's cheating, he probably is", having something more solid to go on helps. The following information can give you clues that your spouse may be straying, as well as tips on how to proceed.
38 Telltale Signs Your Husband is Cheating on You
Infidelity is one of the more challenging problems faced in a relationship. While many people are blindsided if and when they find out about a spouse or partner cheating, others may suspect it because of actions that are out of the norm. While everyone is different, and few signs of cheating are definitive, there are certain behaviors that, together, may back up your unfortunate hunch. Behavior changes, curious actions, and odd occurrences can certainly indicate that a partner is having an affair. That said, it's important to remember that that is not always the case. If you suspect that your partner is cheating, it is understandable to want a definitive way to prove your suspicion. While things like stepping outside to talk on the phone could be related to infidelity, there may be other explanations. Consider the following possible signs that your partner is not being faithful.
Signs Your Spouse Could Be Cheating
Survive Divorce is reader-supported. Some links below may be from our sponsors. There are a ton of little telltale signs that you may be able to spot that will start your womanly radar ticking. He may have a perfectly legitimate reason, such as entertaining clients, or getting ready for a big presentation, but if his reasons are vague and wishy-washy, your defense mechanisms should kick into play, just a bit. Subconsciously, he may be laying his cards on the table.
No one will argue that it is incredibly painful to consider the possibility of your husband cheating on you. However, if you have reasons to suspect that he is cheating—or think you do—then it is time to start looking for the signs that he is being unfaithful. The longer you put off dealing with this devastating situation, the worse you will feel if you find out he has not been honest with you.
30 Subtle Signs Your Husband Is Cheating
32 emotional signs your partner may be cheating on you